It is worth noting that the number of signs, "punctures" in the behavior of a cheating woman varies depending on the "quality" of the betrayal itself. If adultery is based on just sex, a lady may never give herself away. However, as soon as she falls in love and, God forbid, allow herself to fantasize about a possible marriage with her lover, the number of “signals” in her behavior in one day can reach a dozen.
SHE IS ACTIVELY SEARCHING
This phase of a change in a woman's relationship to her chosen one, as a rule, precedes the appearance of a lover. At this stage, it is still reversible, the woman is simply trying to compensate for the lack of warmth. And the first thing she does is to get into the World Wide Web with pleasure, that is, she goes to the Internet! Dating sites, an active life on social networks, chatting in chat rooms well after midnight ...
A smart, and most importantly, loving husband, such behavior of his wife should alert! At this moment, she just wants warmth! And if her husband does not give it to her, then among the billions of Internet users there will definitely be a romantic who is close in spirit! First - conversations, and then the meeting is within easy reach ...
UNREASONABLE JOY
“Hear me,” the wife will say repeatedly before she goes “breaking bad.” She will complain about the lack of attention, her ardor that has cooled down, ask you to say words of love to her, bring a gift ... She has not yet cheated on you physically, but often such conversations are the last “straw” that she grabs at to keep her feelings for you . The one who hears his woman at such a moment will not only keep her from infidelity, but will also rise several steps up in her eyes at once!
Married women, often starving for male attention, fall in love even before the actual betrayal. The chemical process in the blood just begins - and that's it! And she will definitely talk about the subject of her love, and for sure - with her husband too. He will begin to talk about how this “someone” is good and wonderful, and talented, and kind ... Here one would suspect something was wrong with an attentive spouse and eliminate the opponent with a portion of love, attention and affection for their soul mate! Smart and loving will do so. And for the rest - true signs of adultery that has already happened.
CHANGING YOUR INTIMATE HABITS
You can't get anywhere, you have to talk about the main thing - that is, about sex. If a woman cheats on her husband, this, as in a mirror, is reflected in their marital bed. Most often, a lady who has received satisfaction “on the side” no longer needs intimate pleasures with her husband. She is simply "full". In particular, this behavior is typical of girls who think in stereotypes and do not like much variety in bed.
Another scenario is also possible - the wife “suddenly” wakes up sexual appetite, and she begins to show such “aerobatics” in bed that her husband never dreamed of before! Well, as they say, every coin has two sides!
SHE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOUR LIFE
Has she stopped being annoyed by your delays at work? She no longer throws tantrums when you show up a little drunk? She stopped looking at the list of your calls in the phone book, and the late sms that came to you from "Sergey Alexandrovich" amuse her and provoke her to witty jokes like "protect yourself"? Do your business trips, trips to the country to your parents, corporate parties without wives suit her?
This is because her own life is now literally in full swing and for the manifestation of emotions she now has a completely different object. In some cases, the spouse stops cooking for the husband. This is a wake-up call that she no longer sees in him a successor of his kind. So why feed him?
WARDROBE CHANGES
No woman, the most driven by life and downtrodden by her husband, will ever allow herself to appear in front of her lover in old shorts! There is such a type of men who allow themselves to appear before their mistress in family shorts, but there is no such type of women! It is not at all necessary that the wardrobe of a newly-made lover be filled with lingerie from a sex shop, but the fact that just new lingerie will regularly appear in it is a prerequisite! The price of purchases and the level of eroticism will depend on the level of the lover, because now she really wants to please him, and not her husband!
Not only men "catch" on the persistent aromas of their mistress's perfume! Women whose partners love expensive, and even more so niche fragrances, risk no less! The concept of behavior “give the same perfume to your wife and mistress” is adopted by many smart ladies! Well, who did not guess - blame yourself!
Sneaky PHONE
Here the risk of being caught cheating in men and women is about the same. Most spouses find out about the betrayal of their half precisely “thanks to” accidentally read SMS-cams! And the question is, why keep them on your phone? But lovers are sentimental, and it's so nice to read a few words from a loved one...
Experienced lovers and mistresses kill all SMS and even clear the call list before returning home. This, by the way, should also alert the attentive spouse. In my practice, there was a case when an unfaithful wife was caught by her husband, who accidentally read an angry SMS sent by her lover's wife! The question is, why was it kept on the phone if you were not going to leave your spouse? Silly, and only!
CHANGES IN GAIT
Psychologists know that a woman who is in active sexual search signals this at least with her gait. She walks expressively swaying her hips. It doesn’t “scratch” forward, “knocking in the sleepers”, it doesn’t skip, but moves, attracting everyone’s attention! The length of the skirt, of course, can dramatically “jump” up, but only some ladies will allow themselves such a “signal”. The rest will put on sexy lingerie under their usual skirt, and, exuding a myriad of pheromones, will proudly defile around the city with their heads held high, attracting greedy male gazes with their alluring gait.
SLEEPNESS IS REPLACED BY CLEANING
Changes in the wardrobe are necessarily accompanied by changes in appearance. “If a man only needs to buy champagne and a condom for a date, then we need to do a haircut, manicure, pedicure, hair removal,” the beauties assure. Naturally, minimal preparation for a date requires a lot of cosmetics in jars, tubes, bottles, which begin to occupy the entire space of the bathroom and bedroom. From a successful woman comes a lot of delicious aromas ... Beware of husbands whose wives suddenly become fragrant!
FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE
"Good lovers are usually generous, otherwise, why are they needed?" - so argues a good half of unfaithful wives. And it is generosity in all respects, including financial ones, that is so attractive in adultery! The husband, who is accustomed to feeling like the financial master of women's happiness, suddenly discovers that his woman can quite do without handouts from him! And at the same time, her trips to beauty salons have become more regular, and her wardrobe is being updated at an enviable rate!
CALCULATE THE LOVER!
So, you suspected your spouse of treason. They even found unambiguous text messages on her phone, new perfume on her dressing table, constantly high spirits, and even an empty condom pack in her pocket completed the picture. But you don’t know who he is, because the SMS came from someone who is recorded on her phone under the name “Allochka”?
Then at least you need to re-read and review our lesson on the signs of female sexual arousal on the video, and as a maximum, try to figure out her lover among your friends. Otherwise, when you come home one day, you run the risk of finding empty cabinets and a note of a certain content. So, what signals will tell you that this is "he"?
Firstly, in your presence they will not communicate much, but will exchange short, eloquent glances several times. She will regularly straighten her hair, pull it, shake her "mane". Look carefully at her legs - she will definitely point her knee or the toe of her shoe in his direction (even if she never looks at him at the same time!).
If your opponent came with his own wife (and she also guesses about their romance), then his wife will carefully examine yours, trying to understand “what is in her that I don’t have”; he will become clearly nervous and at some point he will definitely stand between them (most likely, turning his back on your wife) - this is the typical behavior of a jealous female primate, but no one has canceled physiology! And at this moment you look at yourself, at her and think about how much you will lose if she leaves you. And remember, it's never too late to fix everything, and you shouldn't give your woman to a stranger so easily!
Anna Solntseva, "Today"
If a lot has been written about male infidelity, then female infidelity is associated with a certain secret and it is not particularly customary to talk about it ...
The obsession of female infidelity
I considered myself a good wife. She took care of her husband as expected - breakfast, lunch for work, neatly packed in a plastic container, dinner in the oven in the evening; always clean shirts and ironed trousers ... Other men did not interest me, even in a nightmare I could not imagine that someone else could interest me. I believed that cheating occurs only when feelings go away, and emptiness remains between people. My relationship with my husband was bright and complete. He and I ... we truly loved each other, and most importantly, we trusted each other very much. I never even thought that someone could be better than him.
But… one fine day a man of 40-45 years old came to work with us. He just recently divorced his wife. He was very sweet and charming. We began to communicate, and imperceptibly our contacts grew into gatherings over a cup of coffee in a cafe. Everything that happened between us scared me very much and at the same time attracted me. I understood that I should not communicate with him, that this would lead to something that I did not need. I felt terrible shame in front of my husband, and it seemed to me that he already suspected something. But I could not stop and forbid myself this relationship.
I was drawn to a new friend. And one day, instead of the usual coffee, a glass appeared guilt…
... And I cheated on my husband. Ask why? I don't have an answer to this question. My husband loves me, we have a very good relationship, and I'm not going to divorce him. But…
After the betrayal, my life turned into a nightmare. I can't look my husband in the eyes. I think he feels everything. I became nervous, irritable. I cut off contact with a new acquaintance, but I cannot erase from my memory that one meeting we had, when I allowed another man to enter me.
I don’t know how I can continue to live with my husband - the feeling that our relationship will never be the same as before. Something is gone forever, and the most unbearable thing is to realize that it was I who destroyed the atmosphere that we had in the family with my own hands.
If a lot has been written about male infidelity, and we are all kind of used to this fact, then female infidelity is associated with a certain secret and it is not particularly customary to talk about it. If a woman is faced with her husband's betrayal, then, overwhelmed by emotions, she tells everyone about it ... Both her mother and her friend, complaining about what a bastard her husband turned out to be. To which mom can say: “I always told you about this ...”
A man, having learned about female infidelity, as a rule, keeps everything in himself. Cheating wife is perceived in society as something shameful. And the strong half of humanity prefers to remain silent about its shame.
Reasons for female infidelity
Why does a woman change? This happens for various reasons.
In one case, the tender "I" of a woman constantly needs attention and love. And no husband can satisfy the constant emotional hunger of his wife. And so she is looking for evidence of her beauty and usefulness in other connections. It is vital for her. At the same time, some find excuses for themselves and the pangs of conscience are unknown to them. And someone cheats, feeling guilty, realizing that this is wrong, but he cannot refuse the attention of other gentlemen. And it is not at all necessary that the husband does something wrong. Just a woman wants a holiday and love, passions. But this is not the case in family life - this period has already passed, it is being replaced by other stages. And no less interesting.
Such betrayals occur due to the fact that in the family the feelings of a woman are protected, and in a quiet, monotonous environment, they fall into "hibernation". From what there is a feeling of melancholy and boredom. Of course, this speaks of certain women's fears to go into the depths of their experiences and relationships. True love begins when the stage of boredom and emptiness is overcome. And it has to be done once. It won’t be easy for you to find what you dreamed of, but as you live through this feeling of longing hidden in the depths over and over again, you will discover the ability to love in yourself. And then the need for numerous novels on the side will disappear.
Other women cheat out of suffering. Desperate to receive love and understanding from her husband, they commit adultery out of anger and hatred, or maybe out of revenge. Husband can be hurt in this way, but how will it help you? This “adventure” will not change you or your life. And if you really want to find your happiness, then the pain that your husband causes you must be experienced. Cheating in this case is like a pain pill. It relieves pain for a while, but does not eliminate the cause.
There is another category of women - these are ladies, like the one that wrote the letter. She loves her husband, and betrayal for her is like an obsession, a romance without continuation, but this act turns her world upside down and begins to undermine from the inside, destroying relationships and former peace. Why, against the backdrop of the well-being of family life, is treason taking place?
It is difficult to answer this question. We are all people, and, of course, on the way of each of us there are temptations that are difficult to refuse. That's why it's a temptation ... But the most unpleasant thing is when conscience and guilt begin to torment. There is a fear that the husband will find out everything and leave you. Many women cannot stand such tension and tell their spouse everything. But think for yourself, does he need such truth? What will he do with her? This truth can destroy the relationship irrevocably.
Everything depends on the situation. If you cheated, and your husband has always behaved well with you, then think about whether this will be a blow to him?
Fragile male "I"
The male "I" is much more vulnerable than the female. And a man is more worried about the breakup and betrayal of a woman. He is faced with a choice: to leave you or to forgive and live with you on? Will he be able to forget everything and forgive you? And will he still treat you?
Your husband is not a psychotherapist or a priest, I think it makes no sense for him to tell the truth just to ease his soul. There are other "pillows" that you can tell about what happened.
And in order to forget everything and continue to live together, you must, of course, accept yourself and forgive. Don't judge or judge yourself. As soon as you lower the level of self-perception, then your requirements for people, your expectations will also decrease.
It also happens that a man, having learned that his wife is cheating, reconsiders his behavior and begins to treat his wife differently. And maybe leave without even trying to forgive. And someone, guessing everything in his soul, behaves as before and says nothing because of fear of changing his life - so be it, let it be treason, but comfortably, predictably. How many men, so many reactions.
The worst situation is when a woman cheats with a friend of her husband. This is really a low blow. Double betrayal.
If a , and it doesn’t matter who cheated, man or woman, this event has come into your life to wake you up from a mental sleep. For you to turn to your depth. Think about your relationship.
Before cheating on your husband, ask yourself the question: how will you feel later? Do you love relationships? Maybe it’s worth solving some difficult problem in the family, and not running away from it into the arms of another man?
It all depends on what you want in this life. A comfortable marriage and love snatches on the side? Or close, deep and trusting relationships in the family?
With love,
Irina Gavrilova Dempsey
Cause of female infidelity
- The main sign of girlish infidelity
- The main differences between male adultery and female adultery
- Psychology inherent in female infidelity
- Conclusion
Women's infidelity is less common than men's. The weak half of humanity has a stronger attachment to the family and a sense of duty. The legendary maternal instinct does not allow her to do stupid things once again. Moreover, the reasons for women's infidelity should be more significant than men's.
One reason for infidelity is curiosity. So in our article we will not consider it, because it is not typical for women. Not because we are not curious (but how!), Simply, having calculated the result of this curiosity, not a single normal woman will change. Consider the main factors that push HER to adultery.
1) Discord in the family
It is difficult to live if life is bad. It is good if a woman has several habitats, for example, a summer house, home and work. Somewhere you can rest your soul. And if only at home, or at work is also unbearable? And if the same family and the same discord at the dacha? If there is nowhere to go from the negative, there is no place where you would be appreciated, respected and loved?!
There are three exits:
reconcile
Believe that you deserve it. Fold your wings and live with what you have. Such women walk the streets with dead eyes and withered wings. It's good that they are getting smaller.
Fight
Change behavior, appearance, interior. Redirect your spouse to yourself, to love. Go together to a psychologist, look through the Internet.
Treason
But it is also different:
You can change your family by finding a parallel life for yourself: sports, amateur performances, hiking with friends. This betrayal often revives the relationship. The man recollects himself, begins to look at his wife from a new angle;
Body change. Only the body of a woman rarely succeeds. Any, even casual sex, we pass through the soul. Yes, and it makes no sense to change only the body. If the soul remains there, on the field of family battles, it will not become easier from just sex. We need a parallel life in which everything is fine.
2) Sex
Dissatisfaction in bed It used to be that orgasm is an exclusively male affair. Basically, that's how it was. Even today, 25% of women do not experience orgasm. And this is with the current emancipation and sexual emancipation. No pleasure from life, only duties.
The female orgasm is not only a ray of light, a spoonful of honey in a barrel of tar in family life. This is the absence of depression, an increase in self-esteem and a decrease in the risk of gynecological diseases. If the wife does not receive this in the family, she has to either put up with all the ensuing consequences, or look for someone on the side who will make her feel like a full-fledged woman.
There is a third option - to go together to a sex therapist. New hobby I fell in love, got married, had children. The order of events may be different. It doesn't matter. The main thing is that everything has already somehow developed: life, sex, kindergarten, shopping, holidays and relatives. And suddenly she meets him, the one whom she had dreamed of all her life.
A woman strives for results, imagine these results:
Divorce
Children grow up without a father. It is not a fact that the new dad will love and accept them.
Living together with a new hobby
So life again, sex, kindergarten ... But all this is burdened by the presence of the past.
Big and beautiful seen from a distance
Approaching, we begin to wince from the smell from the mouth and blackheads on the nose. And suddenly you're lucky, and he will turn out to be the ideal that I read about in novels.
3) Revenge
Change your husband in response to his betrayal! Let him feel what you feel! It serves him right. Yes, but then you have to indulge in all serious things right in front of him. If he doesn't find out, he won't worry. Secret betrayal just doesn't make sense. Well, unless to amuse the vanity.
Here the question arises: is it revenge? Maybe you were just waiting for an excuse to fulfill your desires?
You can make your husband feel jealous without cheating, but only by imitating cheating.
4) The influence of age
Everyone knows the saying "Gray hair in a beard - a devil in a rib." Folk wisdom has long noticed what psychologists now call the "midlife crisis." The children grew up, became independent, there was a lot of free time. Wrinkles, gray hair and thoughts appeared.
Old age has ceased to be a distant future, and you have not yet realized yourself, you have not loved enough, you have not completed what you wanted. Self-pity, depression, emptiness and disappointment on the one hand. On the other hand, there is a great desire to make a bright spurt (acceleration at the finish line), to have time to do something, well, at least fall in love to the point of stupor.
The main signs of girlish infidelity
All couples experience a relationship crisis, but not all unions are destroyed due to infidelity. This is too severe a blow even for a man. Therefore, if you feel “wrong” and suspect your other half of infidelity, it is better to immediately put all the dots or dots ...
Psychology inherent in female adultery
Unlike men, who are usually focused on sexual relationships, women are primarily looking for romance, respect, admiration, which they have not heard from their husband for a long time. They want to revive the ability to love and feel desire. However, if they are not satisfied in marriage, the sexual side is also attractive to them.
Having started a relationship with a lover, some women become more attentive to their husbands, children, perform all household duties, and are more organized in work. The reason for this is the guilt they feel, which prompts them to somehow compensate for their betrayal and correct their mistake. For other women, a love affair on the side is a common thing. Such a woman is very difficult to expose, as she does everything carefully, thoughtfully and systematically.
For them, cheating is an exciting and extreme game, involving risk and a storm of emotions. It is useless to shame and re-educate such a woman. Cheating for her is a way of life, something taken for granted. By the way, such women are calm about male infidelity, they will never terrorize their husband and secretly rummage through his pockets. At the same time, they can really love their husband, marriages with them sometimes last for many years.
There are women for whom relationships on the side do not involve a bed at all. They love to flirt, an explosion of emotions is important for them, when the heart stops at one glance, when everything is boiling inside and you want to laugh or cry. Sex as such is not interesting to them. As soon as it comes to intimacy, they break off relations. They don't see their flirting as cheating, a mistake, or a betrayal.
There are women who deceive their husband at every opportunity. Most often, these women suffer from an inferiority complex, a kind of mental illness. They start romances quickly and swiftly, but are emotionally incapable of continuing love. They do not feel normal maternal feelings in themselves, they do not give a damn about even their children. Fortunately, this type of women is rare, there are few of them and they create families infrequently.
Sometimes promiscuous sexual relations on the part of a woman are the result of a guilt complex. If a girl's parents brought her up in strictness, if she was driven into the head with the idea that she should be chaste before marriage, but she lost her virginity earlier, then now she feels guilty. This happens on a subconscious level, it is difficult for a woman to deal with it.
Such women cannot and do not want to give up sex, they engage in constant adventures as they try to punish themselves for losing their virginity early and reinforce their self-image that they are immoral, promiscuous and deserve only such a life.
Conclusion
Women's infidelities are much less common than men's, but that doesn't change the fact that they exist. The reason for such changes can be anything. From falling in love to banal revenge on an unfaithful spouse.
Having caught your wife cheating, you should first understand the reasons for her such behavior, and then decide what to do next.
The material was prepared by Dilyara specifically for the site
You will not surprise anyone with male betrayal today. Moreover, in society there is no sharp condemnation of men for their campaigns on the side. The explanation of their polygamous physiology is most often limited to one phrase “He's a man!”, Which implies permission for treason. And, despite the fact that the betrayal of a husband is one of the most common causes of divorce in the world, most often men's fleeting hobbies are forgiven by their wives.
Try to understand how your woman feels, and if there is a chance to rebuild the relationship, take it if she loves you, and she will do it for sure. Articles about betrayal regularly appear in letters and on men's portals, but usually these types of texts take into account only one point of view - men.
So, from articles for men, we will learn how to avoid falling into infidelity, find out if your partner is cheating on you and find out why we are all doing this. Unfortunately, we rarely have an idea of the psyche of the other side, which is a pity, because if it were different, we could cheat a little less.
The attitude in society towards female adultery is the opposite. Since ancient times, a woman was considered a coaster, a keeper of the hearth. Her modesty, fidelity to her husband were considered the most valuable qualities. In some cultures, a wife could be executed for treason, more often a crowd threw stones at a traitor. Today, a woman who cheated on her husband does not expect such a severe punishment. But, if a man's infidelity is justified by nature itself, then female adultery is a complex concept that requires a detailed explanation.
Women are very emotional creatures, so it is difficult to judge how they behave when they catch a partner in flagranti. Psychologists also agree that the reaction can be radically different - depending on who it refers to. Although not only this is important - what is important is that the feelings that ladies give to their chosen ones feel.
In addition, there is an overwhelming sense of rejection, as therapist Evelyn Cooney adds: people of infidelity go through the same steps as those who learn about an incurable disease or the prospect of near death - their own or a loved one. We suspect that Dr. Elizabeth Clare-Ross, when she wrote her great work Conversations on Death and Death, was unaware that she also describes what victims of betrayal experience - and yet. The man does not recognize himself, that the world is falling on his head, "this is impossible!" - he thinks it's a normal psychological reaction, he evades. Over time, however, we begin to understand that this is not a dream - in a moment of sobriety of the mind, we say: "I really die" or "in fact, betrayed me" - we begin to believe, and with faith comes only one emotion: anger . Infidelity is literally killing us. . Anger spreads like black paint that hides the whole world.
The psychology of female infidelity
The nature of female infidelity can be explained by one phrase from an old anecdote: "It is not difficult to take someone else's wife away, it is difficult to return her back later." Although many wives deny that they can ever cheat on their spouse, in fact, statistics prove the opposite. A woman, unlike a man, is guided not by the physiological needs given to him by nature, but by feelings. Therefore, it is a married woman who is easiest to seduce and fall in love with herself. Against the backdrop of a stagnant relationship with a spouse and a lack of romance, it is very easy to awaken a woman's extinguished feelings. After all, every woman dreams of being loved and desired, and words for her are often more important than actions. Think about why at all times notorious romantics and vagabonds were revered by women more than sensible businessmen? Why do women leave a reliable spouse for a street bully? As already mentioned, women live with feelings, and cheating for them is an action dictated by their emotional sphere. No woman will cheat on her husband just because she liked the biceps or butt of her alleged lover. Among the causes of female infidelity lie deeper roots.
After the well-known defeat of the "negotiations", there is a painful and often long-term depression that somehow excludes us from life. Luckily, as they say, the darkest is right before sunrise, because the next step is acceptance. Those of you who have experienced this in your own skin know what is being said. He deceived you and now you know the truth. It's not easy to get over infidelity, but no one said relationships were easy. Should you forgive it and work together to improve the relationship, or should you end it now and move on?
Common causes of female infidelity
So, why does the wife decide to take such a risky step? For many, this is, first of all, a step of desperation, a search for a way out of a situation, a solution to problems. The reasons for the wife's infidelity should be sought only in the family.
- Trying to forget family problems. More than 10 years of marriage pass, the family has children, but there are certain problems that do not make a woman happy in marriage. Young girls are likely to file for divorce, and a woman who has decades of family life behind her will not dare to destroy the created world. Because of my own insecurities, because of my children, because of the fear of change. She will find an outlet in the form of a lover. But over time, this illusion will also be destroyed, a woman will realize that she is deceiving herself, first of all.
- Satisfying your own ego. Psychologists say that an unmarried woman can be distinguished by her look, by a certain gleam in her eyes, an aura emanating from her. Having married, a woman loses these signs and becomes uninteresting for men. And the fact that she is married also repels fans from her. It is in search of male attention and romance that a woman decides to cheat. Moreover, often in such cases, it is she who becomes the initiator of extramarital relations.
- Problems in sexual life. Intimacy plays a big role in family life. But over time, passion dulls, and many couples are overtaken by a crisis. Not trying to find a joint solution to this problem, the spouses find it on the side. Sexual dissatisfaction pushes for treason and wife.
- Women's revenge. Cheating for this reason is a huge mistake. Having learned about her husband's infidelity, the wife, overwhelmed by feelings, under the influence of severe stress, goes for treason. But the result is a spiritual emptiness and, perhaps, even a broken marriage. After all, a man, unlike a woman, is not always ready to forgive betrayal.
You are probably asking so many questions that your thoughts are bombarded with non-stop thoughts. If you didn't leave it the moment you found out the truth, you'll probably live in a nightmare in the coming months. Jealousy and anger often sit in the background, waiting for any opportunity to come back to the surface, waiting to explode in a relationship that is still rocky.
If you decide to forgive it, unfortunately you can't turn back the time to fix the situation, but there are a few steps you can take to get the relationship right in the right direction. However, keep in mind that positive results are not guaranteed.
- New love. No matter how old a woman is, she constantly needs love and romantic courtship. And, if on her way she meets a seducer who will give her everything, then she, headlong, will rush into the maelstrom of new relationships.
- Frequent separations. Long business trips of a spouse can also serve as a catalyst for a wife's infidelity. In this case, there are a number of reasons that contribute to discord in relationships: lack of attention, suspicion of the husband of infidelity, sexual dissatisfaction.
- The first love. As you know, first love leaves the strongest emotional memories in the soul. And if the object of youthful passion (provided that he did not drink too much, did not degrade) meets on the path of a woman, then her memory will excite past memories and the relationship will continue.
- Marriage without love. Unfortunately, such marriages are becoming frequent in society. A childhood friend, by calculation, by flight - it is difficult to surprise with such reasons for getting married.
And one more important aspect - a woman cheats not only with her body, but also with her soul. Therefore, if a break with a mistress is easy for a man, then for a woman such a choice is very difficult. And when such a situation occurs, it is very important to stop being guided by feelings, and start acting according to the arguments of the mind.
How to live after cheating with your husband
Expect to admit your guilt and express sincere regret that he deceived you. Express your anguish, anger, and anger, preferably only through words and body language. He insists on a full understanding of the gravity of his actions. Ask them to make a continuous effort in word and deed to prove that they will never exceed that line again.
Put everything in its place
Make him listen to you over and over as you express the intense emotional pain caused by his betrayal. Try to find the necessary empathy in yourself to understand his emotional insecurities that led him to seek the approval of another woman.
Signs of a cheating wife
The nature of a woman is such that it is difficult for her to hide the changes that are happening to her. The female powerful emotional sphere is again to blame for everything. Therefore, if the wife did not admit to infidelity herself, which often happens, her husband can find out about her romance by a number of signs:
Tell her how much you need to be loved and feel safe in order to get through this. Insist on doing your best to bring emotional security and well-being back into your relationship. Encourage him to go to a couple, sex therapy, or personal development group with you.
- the wife hides her phone from her husband, does not talk on the phone with him;
- there were changes in appearance, the wife began to carefully monitor herself;
- a woman has cooled off for sex, constantly finds a reason to evade intimacy;
- the spouse has become emotionally distant;
- she no longer cares about housekeeping;
- absences from home became frequent, the wife also returns late from work;
- any words or actions of the spouse now irritate the woman;
- and the most important sign of infidelity is the appearance of brilliance in the eyes, mystery and riddles.
But no matter what reasons a woman is guided by infidelity, its consequences are, most often, very sad. What does a woman feel after her infidelity?
Most likely, an exorbitant burden of guilt will fall on women's shoulders. Even if the husband never learns about the fact of the committed betrayal, the wife will worry and suffer for a very long time because of what she has done. Because of the fear of condemnation and disclosure of secrets, a woman is unlikely to tell anyone about her act. But in such situations, it is best to speak out, cry on someone's shoulder. Being in this case herself and a lawyer, and a judge, and an executioner, a woman can easily reach a nervous breakdown. And then only a psychologist or a husband who forgave her can help.
The breakup of a family can also be a sad consequence of a wife's infidelity. Although, depending on which side to look at. If the marriage was already bursting at the seams, maybe it's not worth saving? And divorce is the only step to start life from a new leaf. As a rule, men do not forgive adultery. A man understands perfectly well that if his wife cheated on him, then she gave vent to feelings, which means that not only physical, but also spiritual betrayal occurred. This means that his wife does not belong to him. And rarely can a spouse forgive this. Therefore, the consequences of a wife's infidelity for her husband are always so categorical.
Another consequence of the completed adultery is a new relationship and, possibly, a new family. There are many such cases in life. Having met true love, a woman goes to her lover and gets married. In this case, we can say that life after the betrayal has become happier.
Thus, we can conclude that the reasons for adultery on the part of the wife lie in the search for love, warmth, attention and understanding, which she lacks in the family. Change occurs when the relationship has outlived its usefulness. Therefore, in order not to blame yourself for the destruction of the family, you need to do everything to save it before a woman decides to take a desperate step. If in her own husband she sees at the same time a protector, lover, friend, then there will not even be thoughts of betrayal.
Loyalty is one of the most important moments of family life. Of course, those people who did not have to know the bitter taste of treason in their lives are happy. However, even halves that are very loving and adoring each other do not always manage to achieve complete harmony in creating a strong family union. What to do if one of the spouses turned out to be unfaithful to his partner? What is betrayal and how to survive it?
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The terrible word is treason: what can it really be?
Treason... How many destinies are broken, tears are shed and families are destroyed because of this phenomenon! However, what does this word mean? What is actually adultery? Is she as scary as they say she is?
Cheating is the violation of the fidelity of one partner to another, regardless of whether they are married or not. Most often we are talking about sexual contact "on the side", although many of us consider betrayal and falling in love with one of the partners in another person, arguing that "moral betrayal is worse than physical."
Cheating is most often not an accident and not an unfortunate misunderstanding that destroyed an ideal relationship, but an offensive consequence of the problems that have arisen between partners. It does not arise from scratch and always has its own reasons, which we often do not want to notice.
Adultery is a kind of wake-up call that the family ship, if it has not yet crashed into life, has given a noticeable leak. It can be treated differently: for some, husbands have a constant mistress for years, and not just one, but their wives pretend not to notice anything; others, having barely suspected a man of infidelity, immediately break off relations.
In any case, there are two scales in front of a loving person: on one of them is love and a calm relationship with your partner, on the other - a short-term affair, momentary lust. It's simple: if the second bowl of scales outweighs, then the sincerity of his love should be doubted.
There is a great phrase: "You can seduce a man who has a mistress or wife, but not one who has a beloved woman."
The difference between female and male infidelity
From a psychological point of view, male infidelity is fundamentally different from female. In male adultery, most often there is no element of betrayal itself. A man often does not experience deep feelings and emotional attachment to the object with which he is cheating on a woman. Often this is just a momentary whim, passion or inability to suppress an excessively and out of place instinct.
A woman, on the other hand, will not be able to cheat on her man if she does not feel affection or deeper feelings for the object of betrayal. Thus, a woman's path to adultery lies through the cooling of her feelings for her husband: another man begins to attract her. A man, on the contrary, cheating on his wife, continues to love her, sometimes even more than before betraying. That is why women's infidelity is NOT comparable to men's.
Female infidelity is a more destructive thing for marriage and relationships. Male infidelity is often light, superficial, and, if a woman does not find out about it, is not capable of destroying either a relationship or a marriage.
While a man has an “on the side” relationship in the evening, and in the morning he may not even remember the name of his passion, a woman, with rare exceptions, will not be able to give herself to the first person she meets: she will diligently choose a man with whom she has despaired of cheating on her beloved.
The next difference between male and female infidelity is that a man who has cheated on his wife is basically convinced that his woman is superior to the object of adultery, he begins to treat his wife more reverently and touchingly. A woman, on the contrary, idealizes her lover, her attitude towards her husband will only worsen. A man who has been “horned” is most often killed morally, compared, sexual relations are terminated with him, and in most cases the family is destroyed.
Studies have shown that men who cheat on their wives do not consider their marriage a failure, while cheating wives do not hide the fact that they are unhappy in marriage. And if a man does not always need a reason for cheating, then a woman in her infidelity always pursues some goal: whether it is a banal revenge, a desire to assert oneself or a desire to experience new feelings.
Why do husbands cheat on their wives?
Men can cheat on their wives both simply "at the behest of instinct" and for a specific reason. There are several reasons why husbands cheat on their wives:
- fading love : if a man has ceased to have tender feelings for his woman and has lost passion for her, it will not be easy to keep him from betrayal. In this case, it would be pointless to keep a man near you, you need to muster up the courage to find out, and possibly terminate the relationship. You can blame your partner only for the fact that he was not honest, but not for the lack of love on his part.
- relationship problems : This does not mean that love is no more. In most cases, on the contrary, with his betrayal, the partner wants to make sure of the superiority of his beloved and return the passion and ardor of feelings. Instead of expressing his claims to his wife, the man unconsciously tries to correct the situation in a very peculiar way - by treason.
That is why, from a psychological point of view, betrayal often serves as a stabilizer of relations, and people who have experienced all the “charms” of betrayal, in the future treat their partner with great understanding and tolerance.
- desire to try something new : all friends have mistresses, and they do not miss the opportunity to show off their victories on the love front. And then the man decides to try to make a connection on the side - so as not to differ from others, and to diversify his sex life, which has become commonplace. Such connections can be both one-time and permanent - depending on the temperament and character of the man and his passion.
- lack of attention from wife : often occurs when a small child appears in the family. Routine and everyday chores quickly tire a man, and his wife gives him less and less wonderful minutes. The man has no choice but to look for love pleasures on the side: in the bed of his mistress, he feels carefree, omnipotent and attractive.
- impossibility to resist : some women are able to make remarkable efforts to drag the man they like into their bed. And if a man is not inherent in stamina, and there are problems in the family, then she can do it quite easily. It happens that it is such a strong woman who subsequently takes a man away from the family.
- "drunk" : one of the most common causes of male and female infidelity. Alcohol dulls conscience and honor, but it can kindle desire and passion. The betrayal that happened due to the fault of drunk alcohol often leads to nothing, since the man is not interested in continuing his fleeting relationship. But if such a relationship dragged on, then everything happened not by chance, and alcohol only pushed the partners who had been looking at each other for a long time.
How to forgive a cheating husband and is it worth it?
There are other reasons that can push a man to cheat, but not in all situations, the most reasonable way out will be a complete break in relations. The solution to the problem must be sought together, not embarrassed to discuss internal family problems.
If in the case of a betrayal a person is driven by his inner feelings, the discomfort that he experiences when he is next to his lawful wife, then the culprit of such a betrayal is not only a man.
A woman, before completely breaking off relations, needs to reconsider her attitude towards her husband, understand what he lacks at home, what does she “not give” to him such that he is offered in abundance “there”?
If you can’t solve internal problems at a family council, you can seek advice from an experienced psychologist who will offer options for solving such a problem as adultery.
With a qualified, correct approach, you can not only save the marriage, but also make the relationship more sincere, deep and trusting, learn to appreciate and respect each other even more.
However, not all men are worthy of forgiveness, and the phrase “if you love, you will forgive” is not applicable in all cases.
There are betrayals that cannot be forgiven. If a man cheats on his wife for a long time, doing it practically “in front of her”, bringing his mistress home, settling in a family bed, or starting an affair with his wife’s best friend, it is better to take such a “male” out of your life forever.
Such a betrayal is nothing but a real betrayal, and it will be very difficult for a woman who even recklessly loves her husband to forgive him.
Female betrayal: is it worth it to open up to a man?
To decide on treason, a woman needs a VERY good reason. And the question of whether to tell a man about the fact of her going “to the side” or not depends only on what the woman wanted to achieve with her infidelity.
So, TOP reasons for female infidelity
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Life after betrayal: is it easy to live after forgiveness of betrayal
Infidelity is in any case a family failure, to which, however, not all spouses react in the same way. Opinions about betrayal are different, therefore, any person will look for his own way of how to survive the infidelity of a loved one, and also decide whether to go further through life with him or part forever.
Those who, despite everything, have set themselves the goal of maintaining a relationship, should remember that simply “staying together” is most often not synonymous with family happiness. It is important not only to hush up betrayal and turn a blind eye to it, but to realize its causes and your position in this situation, to believe in the successful continuation of the joint life path, to get rid of resentment and fear of new betrayals. You should not take on the role of a victim: you need to be ready to work on yourself and on relationships within the family, to build mutual trust.
In order to get closer to each other again, you need to sincerely apologize and absolutely sincerely forgive, share the responsibility for damaged relationships equally, not be afraid to take a new step into the common future, be interested in the partner’s feelings and not be afraid to voice your own.
There are many couples who have gone through infidelity, but still stayed together, having come to terms with this fact, or forgiving their couple. Here it would be more appropriate to say that if you have already stayed together, having forgiven your partner for his mistakes, then be so wise that in later life you do not remind him of this unpleasant event and do not reproach him for the deeds of bygone days.
This is what determines selfless love and respect for your soul mate - the most important component of a strong marriage.
In romantic films, young people at the wedding read the “oath of allegiance”, which includes promises to love each other, to be there no matter what. But life sometimes presents surprises in the form of betrayal of one of the spouses.
The consciousness of society is arranged in such a way that men's walking "to the left" is taken for granted. Such behavior is often justified by natural data, the inner essence of the male character - the "conqueror". Therefore, the husband's infidelity is rarely condemned by society.
But women's campaigns "to the left" are considered something out of the ordinary, they are condemned. Statistics show that the number of married girls who cheat on their beloved halves begins to grow from year to year. What is the cause of female infidelity, how to deal with it?
If we study trips to lovers in the family, then an extraordinary connection can be traced - the reasons for such actions in men and women contain different approaches.
The main essence of female infidelity
Some psychologists believe that cheating is a natural process for men. Simply put, they follow nature, often striving to win over as many of the opposite sex as possible. A woman by nature does not have such a desire. They have another desire - to choose the best man. Simply put, in men's adventures, the decisive factor is quantity, for women, quality is important.
If a woman meets a man along the way who is superior to her acting lover, then she will give her heart to a successful representative.
Moreover, her husband can be a worthy person - he provides for the family, devotes time to her, takes care of the children. But the female gender is missing something, she is looking for this unknown something on the side, among other men.
Often there are situations when a wife cheats on a decent man, but does not leave him. What drives her, why does she choose this path? What are the motives of female infidelity? Let's take a look at this rhetorical question.
Reasons for female infidelity in marriage
Having studied the features, differences between male and female infidelities, let's move on to listing the motives that push a woman to take this step. Female adultery, taking into account the mentality of society, is perceived by people aggressively. Therefore, in order to decide to take a step into the abyss, a woman needs explicit arguments.
So what drives a woman to cheat?
- revenge. Married life rarely runs smoothly. Housekeeping is accompanied by quarrels, scandals. But if for many couples issues are resolved mutually, then for some families, after a quarrel, there comes a moment when the spouse goes to the side. Either the husband simply behaves ugly, humiliates the woman, drinks or dissolves his hands. It will seem strange that the wife does not divorce, continues to live with such a person. Cheating can be an act of protest against a tyrant husband, an offender;
- disappointment. Relationships change, especially compared to the courtship period. A man who has conquered a girl calms down, stops paying attention to her. Instead of spending time together, the spouse simply immerses himself in the world of virtual reality or spends time watching TV. A girl who is used to receiving attention from her beloved can find it hard to endure such a change in behavior. It is difficult to pull out many young men from the usual quiet swamp even for a joint walk, keeping silent about visiting entertainment places. Cheating is a way to add bright colors to the gray everyday life;
- bed relationship. Over time, sex in married people becomes something commonplace. Yes, people have different temperaments. The husband, coming home from work, wants to rest, to be left alone. A woman, especially a sensual one, can hardly endure such changes in her beloved, so she thinks about betrayal;
- Men don't often show emotions. Especially after marriage, when the wife is at hand, already her own. Many men forget to compliment their soulmate, admire her beauty and other qualities. Most husbands take for granted all the household chores that the beloved bears on herself - cooking, cleaning, ironing. Few husbands are willing to just say "thank you" for what his wife does for him. In contrast, here is a man who is ready to admire every step, her actions, he likes everything - is this not a reason to change?
- early marriage. In Russia and other Slavic countries, girls still strive to get married as soon as possible. Often such marriages are made hastily, the partners have no time to get to know each other. Because of what subsequently in family life disappointments begin. If a young girl is not satisfied with her husband emotionally, morally or physically, then she takes an example from her unmarried friends - she starts walking;
- whatever one may say, the saying about the forbidden fruit is still relevant. Over time in a relationship or marriage, many women revisit principles. But if earlier betrayal was not even thought of, then with the advent of time it becomes a desirable action;
- "herd instinct". No matter how rude it may sound, but often such feelings push a woman to infidelity. Various factors lead to this - statements, actions of girlfriends, mass propaganda of unhealthy behavior through the media, or something else. The result is one - the wife gets herself a lover.
Psychology. Why do women cheat on men
Women's psychology is arranged in such a way that treason occurs as a result of the appearance of feelings. As it happens, the one who is near is annoying, seems unpleasant, annoying. The forbidden man becomes a real treasure for her, which entails inaccessibility. If he still shows truly masculine qualities, the woman begins to fall in love. Such loves eventually pass, bring disappointment. But for a while, the woman is sure that this man is her only destiny.
What is the difference between male and female infidelity:
- the senses. For men, cheating is a physiological process, they do not need feelings to change. It is different with women, the very fact of physical contact is not so important for them, they cheat on their husbands only because they feel a feeling of love;
- partner choice. Men's infidelity is characterized by a less picky choice. Simply put, it is enough for them that the mistress was beautiful in appearance. Women do not change with anyone. They make lovers from the list of worthy gentlemen;
- story after action. Men who have a mistress do not get divorced. It is unprofitable for them - life is established at home, on the side there are vivid emotions, new impressions. Why change everything if everything is great? Women take a different approach. If they are in love, they try to break off relations with an already unloved husband, build new ones with their lover.
How to prevent female infidelity in the family?
Women's adventures are made when a new feeling arises. Therefore, if adultery has already been, it will be difficult for the spouse to return everything back, to achieve the former idyll.
A woman, most likely, will already be ready to break off relations, plunge into new feelings with her head. To be honest, few men are ready to forgive their beloved betrayal.
The opinions of psychologists on this issue converge, it is better not to bring the situation to an extreme boiling point, to mutually start working on relationships. The methods are different. But in one aspect, all psychologists agree - if you leave family life, as it is, with mutual claims, insults, it is unlikely that you will be able to maintain relationships.
Here are the main tips for men who, without visible effort, will help to establish contact with their beloved and significantly improve family ties:
- make time for your loved one. Undoubtedly, the work is exhausting, when you come home, you only want one thing - to rest, so that no one touches you. But if you take a few minutes to your wife - ask how she is doing, what's new happened during the day - it will take a little time, but it will restore contact and soften the heart of her beloved;
- be more to her than a passport spouse. In order for a married woman to be as attached to her husband as possible - become her friend, father, lover - in general, she should receive all types of male help from you. If you can listen to her, give practical advice, nail a shelf, give affection and tenderness, she will not want to look for another gentleman on the side;
- quarrel. A family in which all claims are hushed up, swallowed up by the parties, will not live long. It is impossible to accumulate resentment without exploding one fine day. Therefore, all psychologists unanimously repeat: there is a problem - it needs to be solved. Speak grievances, try to find a solution together. And remember that you also need to be able to quarrel. Ugly screams, insults and obscene swearing will not lead to a solution to the issue;
- talk openly about the intimate side of life. Many couples are embarrassed to discuss their sexual problems with each other, which they enjoy in bed. General dissatisfaction negatively affects relationships. Against this background, it seems rather strange that cheating with a stranger seems to many people a normal way out. Despite the fact that with his half there was not even an attempt to talk. In practice, couples who dared to discuss their intimate life opened up their partner in a new way, breathed bright colors into the relationship;
- respect is the foundation of a relationship. Remember this, try to pay maximum attention to respect. If a person does not respect his beloved, then the marriage is doomed to failure. Listen to your wife, say that you expect the same from her;
- do not plunge into the abyss of everyday problems. An established lifestyle sucks, deprives of any desire to embark on adventures - that's the problem. This reason leads according to statistics to the mass of divorces. Arranging a small surprise just like that is not difficult, but so nice. Such moments are remembered best of all, heal the situation between the spouses;
- don't be overly jealous. Unfounded suspicions, constant nit-picking and total control are no help for healthy family relationships. A woman will get tired of receiving accusations of non-existent treason, and will commit it in practice.
Note! Female adultery is an action that is preceded by a long preparatory period. Women do not go “to the left” out of fleeting emotions; they are realized after a thorough analysis of the situation and many hours of painful thoughts.
Why do wives like to cheat?
Much has been said about the causes of infidelity, the components and differences in approaches to infidelity between men and women. It is worth noting that all ladies can be divided into two large categories:
- those who changed once by accident and are tormented by this;
- those who see everyday life in treason and constantly make lovers.
There is one key difference here. There are women who get all these feelings without violating personal boundaries. But there is also a category that is not able to diversify life without trips to lovers. Every day their need for diversity is higher.
Why does the wife want to cheat?
Among women, there are also many who commit adultery, not only because of feelings or cooled family relationships. Among the weaker sex there are ladies who are ready for infidelity, for the sake of:
- career. There are many examples when a big boss gets girls who are ready to do anything for a promotion;
- wealth. The desire of the beauties of the XXI century to live on a grand scale is not always realized in reality. The average man cannot provide a monthly flight abroad, holidays in resorts, shopping and other delights of life. When a rich lover is a classic for all time;
- just because she likes to feel adrenaline, to change men. There are women like this too. At the same time, she is comfortable living with her husband, who belongs to the class of spineless.
Consequences of female adultery in marriage
Everyone knows that change is bad. Few people are ready for such a development of events. But you can never give up. Difficult relationships with her husband, a business trip, meeting with classmates or relaxing alone in resorts - there are a lot of options, but the result is the same. A woman is left alone with betrayal and does not know what will happen next, how to deal with it.
Consider the consequences of female adultery from the point of view of two sides - the state of a woman and a man.
What are the consequences of infidelity for a woman?
It doesn’t matter for what reasons this happened, after infidelity, many questions remain - to tell your husband or not? How to behave and what to do next? What to answer if he asks? Psychologists agree that it is by no means worth talking about this, especially if the betrayal occurred one-time, in other words, “accidentally”.
You are not interested in continuing a relationship with a strange man, you do not want more of this experience, then you cannot definitely tell your husband. This hurts his feelings, will lead to a change in relations between spouses.
On the part of the husband, most likely, uncontrollable jealousy and constant suspicions will appear. This is how everything will happen - he will torment you with questions - how it all happened, with whom and most importantly who is better, he will begin to constantly control you, find fault with trifles.
The unfaithful woman herself does not feel happy. On the contrary, she begins to suffer and suffer. She is covered by a whole range of emotions - shame, remorse, fear of being discovered. After the moment of betrayal, a woman begins to think about how and what to talk about, she introduces total control into her life. This exhausts her psychologically, emotionally and can lead to depression, neuroses, and nervous breakdowns.
For most women, cheating is a life-changing act. But in order not to torment yourself with vain torments, it is better to carry out mental work on mistakes.
Think why did this happen? What emotions led to such an unpleasant act? What was the last straw? Reasoning logically, without unnecessary emotions, you can get to the bottom of the truth and try to solve the problem found in a loyal way.
To understand the accompanying emotions in more detail, consider them using the example of the most common causes of infidelity:
- new impressions. Life becomes boring over time, as well as relationships between spouses, including sexual ones. There is no longer that ardor, passion, hot sighs as between the young. The spouse has already been studied inside and out. If the betrayal came from a desire to get new emotions, then women are subsequently very disappointed. Taking into account the fact that all the subtleties of physical contact have already been studied with a loved one, satisfaction in marriage with a familiar partner often occurs in a woman. With a lover, this may not happen. And in general, is there any confidence in a woman that after several years of life with her lover, the same thing will not happen? In general, some disorders;
- male impotence. This problem is one of the most serious. Sexual impotence under stress is increasingly common in young men in their 30s. Marriage, as it were, is strong, but must include sexual relations. If the beloved man nearby does not want or cannot carry out such actions? Cheating with another will also not bring relief to the female soul. If the relationship with her husband is good, then betrayal will cause a feeling of shame, self-abasement about deceiving a good person. Is it worth changing - definitely not. It is worth running to the doctor with your husband, trying by all means to solve the problem that has arisen;
- curiosity. No matter how strange it may sound, but the interest in the unknown pushes women into bed with unfamiliar men. Frankly speaking, a woman can get real pleasure in combination with an emotional component. If you change just like that, then a woman will not receive any pleasure, much less happiness. In return, there will be remorse, a dumb question - that's what was all this for?
- revenge. Husband cheated, and you decided to repay him with the same coin? Let's just say that the path is fundamentally wrong. After that, the woman will feel in front of her husband - a traitor, a deceiver. Would this analogy be nice? Such prospects will please not many. If you want to take revenge - please, but already outside the bonds of marriage. Otherwise, the female act will not differ in any way from the act of the partner.
What are the consequences of infidelity for a man?
If a man finds out about his wife's infidelity, this strikes him with a blow to pride. A man's self-esteem drops, jealousy and a decadent mood develop. The very fact of infidelity tells a man that his companion does not respect his partner. Even if outwardly he is ready to forgive his wife and give her another chance, then inwardly he will continue to resent, constantly remembering the betrayal.
As a result of dissonance, psychological disorders arise, aggression, inferiority complexes are manifested, it comes to sexual inability. Such manifestations are easily explained. Having forgiven the betrayal, the man subscribes to his insolvency. Because in the aspect of infidelity, a man pays attention only to physical contact. Which is a fact of insufficient male power if the girl chose another man. He does not pay attention to the romantic component at all.
Every man - the owner, perceives his wife (companion, girlfriend) as a trophy that is won in a fair fight. Therefore, a woman who has changed is no longer his prey, and this is a shame. The very attitude towards the traitor is expressed in complete contempt. Cheating is nothing but betrayal. If even in a relationship the wife could not resist, then how to hope for such a person further?
To forgive women's infidelity?
This question arises in men who love their wife, but are tormented by the fact of infidelity. It is difficult to find a single answer for every situation. But consider it from the point of view of the psychological state of a man.
The husband is confused, embittered, depressed. If the infidelity is forgotten and the family tries to return to their usual way of life, it is unlikely that everything will be the same as before. Forgiveness of betrayal is difficult to achieve. In most cases, a man who has forgiven his wife becomes weak and supple in the eyes of a woman. Such men are not respected, they wipe their feet on them and continue to cheat.
Thus, to the question of whether it is worth forgiving, the answer is unequivocal - it is impossible. Why to preserve your inner peace and dignity.
Why do you dream that your wife is cheating?
Dreams are a mysterious thing. Sometimes a man may dream that his wife is cheating. He is ready to transfer this situation to real life. But here's the problem. Dreams are a reflection of our hidden thoughts and experiences. Therefore, if in a dream you witnessed infidelity, most likely the whole thing is increased jealousy and suspicion.
Analyze how worried you are about the possible fact of infidelity. Are there any prerequisites for this or do you only have your own conjectures? If a man had such a dream, and he is disturbing - pay attention to his wife, try to devote more time to her. So you will find out about the absence or presence of infidelity, strengthen relationships so that infidelity does not happen.
The topic of female infidelity is extensive. It is difficult to draw one line under all situations. Each family has its own rules, features, so no story of infidelity is like the rest. But there are important points in this whole story that are worth summarizing:
- cheating is a voluntary act. Despite the reasons that could lead to the commission of the act, the final decision is made by the person himself. That is why it is not worth blaming the circumstances. There is another way out of any situation;
- men and women see cheating differently. If for a man it is more important that a woman physically belonged to another, then for the beautiful half, feelings come first;
- to admit to infidelity or not is a rhetorical question. It is impossible to give unambiguous advice without knowing the people, the details. But the old rule still applies: “the less you know, the better you sleep”;
- how to be spouses after infidelity? Forgive your wife or not? A question that haunts deceived husbands. If you decide to forgive, restore family relationships - the topic of betrayal should be forgotten once and for all. You can’t blame and in the heat of a quarrel, try to prick your spouse more painfully with this information.